READINESS: Readiness is the one phase of the ten-phase super sex model that was focused upon by the first three perspectives. Readiness refers to the body’s response to interest and arousal. It is the physiological reaction that accompanies interest and arousal, the tumescence stage, when blood rushes to erotic areas of the body, including the genitals, preparing for body-to-body interaction. Readiness is an entire body response, not just a genital response. Remember, lack of readiness does not mean lack of interest or arousal. Research does not support such a relationship. Readiness is a reflex, and can take place with little arousal and be absent even when there is a great deal of both interest and arousal.

Your own experience teaches you that you have been aroused, but not ready. Sometimes you have awakened ready, but not aroused. You have been interested and ready, but not aroused. You have been ready, but not interested, and your desire, your frequency might or might not have reflected any of these changes in the sexual system, because sex is really not an automatic cycle, it is a system of interactions of different mind and body states. The cycle orientation of the first three perspectives mislead us. Use your own experience as the couples did and you will see that sexuality is not some type of automatic slide, but a complex mind/body interaction. This fourth perspective emphasizes the subjective experiences of the couples rather than the observational orientation of earlier perspectives.

“I know you think I’m ready,” reported the husband. “You think I’m always ready. Well, I’m not. My penis does not speak for me.”

“If I can’t tell by your penis, how am I supposed to know if you are ready?” asked the wife.

The orientation of the first perspectives is clear in this exchange. Both partners have confused what the body does with how the person feels.

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Previous chapters in this book provided quite some criticism of the practices of conventional medicine.

The indisputable progress in many areas of medical and other related sciences was yet to be mentioned. This would include among others: the life saving emergency treatments, technology and instrumentation for chemical and biological analysis and the breathtaking progress on the frontiers of “mind-body” medicine.

Deepak Chopra, MD, a pioneer of modern mind-body medicine, is the author of numerous inspiring and mind-bending books, which are listed in the References. In his books,* he illustrates the process of mind and body interaction drawing up on many clinical examples as well as research results from medical science and modern quantum physics. He has met and continues to meet with the considerable opposition from his colleagues – conservative medical scientists, who insist that they should see everything under their microscopes to believe it. Deepak Chopra points out, that medical sciences simply ignore monumental advances made in other sciences, mainly in the Quantum Physics.

Not only do microscopes have limited resolution, and the visible bandwidth of light is extremely narrow (0.4-0.7 micrometers), but even if we could separately look at each molecule, atom or an elementary particle – there is exactly nothing to look at ! Physicists have found quite a long time ago, that any elementary particle or atom is just a form of energy, oscillating in some state of equilibrium, and therefore it is essentially 99.999 % empty space. We can see, detect or sense the matter composed from such atoms, only because their energy interacts with us as observers, ie. for example reflects light that is visible to us. On that level of understanding, even physicists agree, that there is essentially no difference between thought and matter. Thought can become matter and matter can become a thought. Deepak Chopra gives some stunning examples of such transformations not from the mysterious ancient past, but from within contemporary India.

If you need more explanation from the modern Quantum Physics point of view, and do not feel an expert in physics, please read an excellent book “Superforce”, by Paul Davies, listed in the References. Paul Davies is a respected professor of physics, and he does a wonderful job of explaining achievements of modern physics to non-experts. It is really worth the effort to read his book.

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